Hospitality

Observe the face of a person - what do you see?
Ethnic origins, age, gender, jewellery, make up, the image that a person wants to project, factors combine to indicate the feelings of the person you are dealing with.
To make a character judgement from facial appearance only can be superficial. Facial appearance is only one of a wide range of nonverbal signs that you need to take into consideration.

The expression on a person's face is a good indicator of emotions -happiness, surprise, sadness, fear, anger, disgust, interest and many more.
Different types of smiles transmit different nonverbal information.
For example, each smile transmits a non verbal message, which may come from a slight tilt at the corners of the mouth or a wide-open mouth showing great amusement or astonishment. Be aware that some people have cultivated much greater control over their expression than others.

This is one of the most important nonverbal cues in our society. You are expected to meet other peoples' gazes when you communicate.
If you fail to do this, you can be interpreted as being deceptive, weak, bored or angry. There are actually complicated rules governing eye behaviour, with much variation on the direction of the gaze and the length of time you look at someone.
For example, you will look less frequently and for shorter periods if you are lying or if you are embarrassed or if you dislike the person you are talking to. The longer gaze indicates more intimacy and shows a sign of interest and attention. Depending on the context and relationship, it can be friendly, hostile or sexual.
While eye contact is supremely important in Western society, in some societies - most Asian societies, - it can be embarrassing and intrusive. If you are dealing with people from another culture you must be aware of their background and allow for the differences in their cultural behaviour.

Your voice is a reliable indicator of nationality, regional origin, social class, educational level, age and gender. Allied to paralanguage (rate, pitch, stress, intonation) it can carry up to 38 per cent of the message. It also discloses the emotional state of the speaker and conveys attitudes such as sarcasm.

The posture of the body in general reinforces the face, so that if a face shows dejection the body will tend to droop. This is not surprising, as it is the whole person who is having these feelings. The body often reflects an individual's self-concept indicating their self esteem.

Posture refers to 'how you position your body' often indicating your feelings or attitudes at the time. Posture can be open or closed (defensive).
When you place some kind of barrier in front of your body-for example, folding your arms across your chest or crossing your legs or your ankles this may, indicate a closed posture. A closed posture can be interpreted as signaling rejection or defensiveness, and that your attitude towards the other person is negative.
When there are no barriers between yourself and the other person you may be perceived as signaling receptivity and acceptance. For example, inclining the top half of the body towards the other person may indicate interest and involvement in what they are saying or doing. This is the only one example of open posture there are many more.It is important however, not to automatically make judgements from a person's posture. Some people fold their arms for comfort, or because they are cold.

This aspect of nonverbal communication gives you a lot of information. The clothes a person wears can disclose economic and social class, personality, occupation, values, attitudes and self-concept.
Clothes are used to project an image and are used to indicate group memberships and affiliations.

Specific movements or gestures can indicate what a person wishes to convey to you. For example, a listener might nod their head during a conversation or a member of the police force might hold up a hand with the palm outwards to signify 'stop!' You might use a beckoning gesture to call a person to you or wave to say good-bye. There are many gestures we use often it is important to be aware that gestures have different meanings in other cultures.

Each of us has a different personal space requirement; this is because we have individual personalities and experiences. Certain situations and cultural backgrounds can influence the amount of personal space required. Invading someone's personal space can make that person uncomfortable and non-receptive.
For example, standing close to and facing a person can invade their personal space; a wheelchair user's personal space includes the wheelchair. Respect this space.

This type of nonverbal communication is extremely powerful. In our society it must be used with discretion. To be effective, touch must occur at the right moment and in the right context, otherwise it can be perceived as offensive and may even lead to charges of harassment. In general, we prefer not to be touched by other people.